How To Say No - The Law Of Attraction Way

Telling someone who is swamped with responsibilities to 'just sayno' is like telling an overweight person to 'just eat less and exercisemore.'

Most overweight people know intimately the 'how to lose weight'recipe, have been on many programs and diets. The problem is notlack of knowledge. It's far more complex and emotional than that.

Likewise the chronically overworked person knows how to getthings done - that's why they are so busy!

Time management is not the problem.

It's the fear of what may happen in saying no that is sabotagingtheir freedom.

What's so scary about saying 'no'?

Ask this question, and out comes a litany of 'what ifs'.

Like, 'What if I say no and they are disappointed? or they judge me?or they don't like me? or they pass me over for a promotion? or arguewith me? or pressure me? or abandon me?'

Saying no conjures up a whole lot of pain. And this feels like a lotmore pain than just taking on the task, sacrificing your workout(again), or that extra three hours of sleep, or that time with yourkids.

Saying no feels like a squeeze between the pain that is imagined andthe pain of overworking.

So what's going to kill you first? That's right - self-sacrifice.

Martyrs are inspiring, but they're dead.

When I was diagnosed with cancer it gave me permission to say no toa whole bunch of responsibilities that had crept up on me. After all, Ihad cancer, wha5B2t were people going to say? Let's press the sick girlto work a little harder? It was the perfect excuse.

Saying no was liberating. I started to wish I'd learned how to say nobefore I got so sick. Could it be that saying no could have preventedgetting cancer in the first place? Well, duh!

Hear me now people - you do not need to get cancer to say noand start looking after yourself.

You already know this to be true. So how do you turn it around?

First, acknowledge that trying to anticipate what anyone else isthinking or feeling or going to do is a fruitless waste of energy anda sure way to drive yourself nuts.

You can NEVER know what someone else is thinking.

Now start paying attention to what YOU are thinking - yourthoughts are what cause your suffering - and are also youropportunity for freedom.

Figure out what you're really afraid of in saying no. Who do youthink you'll disappoint? Who do you think will judge you? Write outthe 'what ifs' that are playing on your mind.

Take a look at the limiting beliefs behind these thoughts. If youfear disappointing someone, then this reveals a destructive beliefunderneath that says, "I am a disappointment" or perhaps "I am notgood enough" or perhaps "I am a failure".

Release the fear energy. Use a release technique such as EFT orvisualising or something experiential like acupuncture or exercise.You need to purge that stress vibe from your system.5B4

Re-program your beliefs. Next adopt new empowering beliefs suchas 'I am worthy', 'I am strong', 'I am deserving'. Consolidate thesebeliefs with a process like Psych-K, affirmations, or scripting.

Practice. The first time you say no is the hardest. It gets easier andmore fun after that.

There you have it. No more excuses. Time to start looking afteryourself with a simple two letter word.

Zoe

Law of Attraction Block Buster Coach Zoe Routh helps busy professionals and business owners turbo-charge their personal effectiveness. Zoe has paddled 30 weeks by canoe, run 6 marathons, hiked hundreds of kilometres in Australia's outback, bellydanced at festivals, written a book, survived cancer, married a fair dinkum Aussie bloke, and wrestled a 6 meter crocodile. It's all true, except for the crocodile part. Get your free Law of Attraction Checklist at http://www.innercompass.com.au

We become what we think about most of the time